“Nice guys” are revered in society more than we think
By JENIBELLE HSU
Perhaps it is time that “nice guys” finish first.
Regardless of their noteworthy virtues, social norms oftentimes dictate that “nice guys finish last.” From quixotic rom-coms to Wong Fu Production’s short film “Just a Nice Guy,” good-hearted individuals always seem to fall behind the defiant “bad boys.” On the surface, the humble and considerate person simply cannot adapt to today’s “survival of the fittest” society, because other arrogant and corrupt bullies can easily crush their hopes.
Nevertheless, the typical “nice guy” or “nice girl” succeeds in the long haul, because they not only establish healthy and long-lasting relations with peers, but they also attain more self-fulfillment and happiness.
Fundamentally, the selfless helpers at school most likely have more friends than the arrogant show-off. The reason is simple: while kind students actively cooperate with peers, the entitled bullies degrade and subordinate others. Subsequently, this one-sided friendship harms the unfortunate “friends” and jeopardizes relations with genuine, amiable companions.
In the end, mean people destroy others and, evidently, themselves. Supercilious children may grow up to be lonely adults, as their friends and colleagues gradually shun them from society. On the other hand, big-hearted individuals who prize universal gain over self-interest will be more likely to be welcomed in communities and receive the same treatment in return, fostering harmony, positivity and honesty in relationships.
In contrast, insensitive and egotistical individuals will soon be overwhelmed with guilt after realizing they cannot undo their wrongdoings. For example, as childhood bullies mature, they may finally acknowledge their unrighteous behavior, but their notorious past may discourage them from becoming their best selves. Consequently, the archetypal “mean girls” fall behind in an ever-changing society that demands everyone’s greatest capabilities.
In reality, “nice guys” rarely do finish last, but generous individuals sometimes succumb to peer pressure and manipulations, sacrificing their dignity and success in hopes of pleasing and supporting others.
However, charitable friends are not particularly insecure and indecisive. They understand from experience and guidance when to be courteous and when not to be—when to please peers and when to criticize them. Therefore, their moral compass and courage are not compromised by being a nice person.
Ultimately, kindness is not a weakness, but a virtue. Although generous individuals are pounded with criticisms of being “too nice,” they are the happiest and most appreciated people in our communities. So, perhaps it is time we be more like the “nice guys.”